Introduction:
Anal sex is the act of consensual Anal penetration by one or more partners with fingers or a phallus (penis or penis shaped object such as a dildo or strap on). Unlike oral sex or even vaginal sex anal sex takes a lot of preparation. Anal sex takes a lot of time to work up to and a lot of trust in your partner. The anus will need to be stretched and lubricated (Water based lube recommended, oil based degrades condoms) before and during penetration. You may not be able to achieve full penetration with a phallus on the first try, this is okay, take your time, talk to your partner(s) and figure out what pace you're comfortable with. Communication is important here! You must be careful when having anal sex as tearing and bruising to internal walls as well as the sphincter are common injuries with improper anal sex.
If there is an emergency please contact your medical professional!
If there is an emergency please contact your medical professional!
General information
- During anal sex the penis (or fingers/toy) is inserted into the anus.
- Consent is a must, there is no enthusiastic consent then it's not sex, its assault or rape
- foreplay isn't just a courtesy, it is a must with anal sex. It relaxes not only you and your partner(s) but helps relax and stretch the anus in preparation for penetration.
- Taking your time is important, being prepared and aroused allows both partners to enjoy intercourse more fully
- You may not go all the way on the first try, this is fine, take your time and consider starting small the first time and slowly working your way up to full anal intercourse.
FAQs
Will it hurt?
While anal intercourse may cause pain, if preparation is done correctly there should not be alarming or persistent amounts of acute pain. Stop and talk to your partner(s) if there is discomfort or high levels of pain. Take your time and use lube liberally. An ache in the area may persist during and after, this is normal, your muscles aren't used to doing this.
Will I bleed?
You should definitely NOT be bleeding. if tearing happens and bleeding is present STOP immediately. If bleeding is severe or persists you should seek medical attention.
What is the best position?
There is no overall best. you decide what is comfortable and pleasurable to you and your partner(s). There is no right or wrong answer here. Just remember to keep it safe, sane and consensual.
Do I need lube?
Definitely. lube in necessary for the stretching and insertion process. if you attempt anal sex without lubricant it will be painful and likely lead to injury
Do we have to use a condom?
It is highly recommended that you use a condom, even if all parties involved are clean and douching was done. fecal particles are not meant to come in contact with open woulds or any other orifice, this can lead to infection and illness. there is also i high risk of STI's according to the CDC, please use cautions.
When should they put on a condom?
For standard penis condoms it is best, and easiest, to put a condom on before penetration but after an erection has been achieved, use plenty of lube!
What else do i need to know?
Anything that has penetrated the anus should not make contact with any other orifices, this includes the mouth and vagina. Wash hands, change condoms and gloves and be mindful and safe.
While anal intercourse may cause pain, if preparation is done correctly there should not be alarming or persistent amounts of acute pain. Stop and talk to your partner(s) if there is discomfort or high levels of pain. Take your time and use lube liberally. An ache in the area may persist during and after, this is normal, your muscles aren't used to doing this.
Will I bleed?
You should definitely NOT be bleeding. if tearing happens and bleeding is present STOP immediately. If bleeding is severe or persists you should seek medical attention.
What is the best position?
There is no overall best. you decide what is comfortable and pleasurable to you and your partner(s). There is no right or wrong answer here. Just remember to keep it safe, sane and consensual.
Do I need lube?
Definitely. lube in necessary for the stretching and insertion process. if you attempt anal sex without lubricant it will be painful and likely lead to injury
Do we have to use a condom?
It is highly recommended that you use a condom, even if all parties involved are clean and douching was done. fecal particles are not meant to come in contact with open woulds or any other orifice, this can lead to infection and illness. there is also i high risk of STI's according to the CDC, please use cautions.
When should they put on a condom?
For standard penis condoms it is best, and easiest, to put a condom on before penetration but after an erection has been achieved, use plenty of lube!
What else do i need to know?
Anything that has penetrated the anus should not make contact with any other orifices, this includes the mouth and vagina. Wash hands, change condoms and gloves and be mindful and safe.
MythsYoull get stretched too far and have issues for the rest of your life It's not pleasurable for people without prostates Only Gay cisgender men have anal sex with other gay cisgender men. It will hurt the whole time. It's messy You can swith back and forth between anal and vaginal/oral sex without stopping |
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FactsFalse! the anus and rectum are like any their bodily structure, they can and will return to their original size and shape given time and proper care. Not true! pleasure is different for everyone and individuals without prostates may find pleasure in anal penetration regardless of stimulation to certain "hot spots". Again, not true! Anybody can find pleasure in anal sex, Gay cisgender man or no. plenty of other people practice and enjoy anal sex. Nope! with proper preparation and lubrication anal penetration can be highly pleasurable and pain free. While fecal matter can transfer to whatever may penetrate the anus, this can be helped by a bowl movement and shower beforehand. If you're still concerned enemas are often used as well. LIES! You MUST chage the condom or wash any inserted items or body parts with soap and water before switching to any other oriface. Fecal matter can cause infection and illness if deposited in the wrong place. |
Sources and Resources
https://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/anal-sex
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/sex/all-about-sex
https://sexetc.org/info-center/post/what-is-anal-sex-and-how-do-you-do-it-are-there-any-risks/
https://smartsexresource.com/topics/anal-sex-and-anal-play
https://playsafe.health.nsw.gov.au/2014/10/08/whats-anal-sex/
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/sex/all-about-sex
https://sexetc.org/info-center/post/what-is-anal-sex-and-how-do-you-do-it-are-there-any-risks/
https://smartsexresource.com/topics/anal-sex-and-anal-play
https://playsafe.health.nsw.gov.au/2014/10/08/whats-anal-sex/