Introduction:
Vaginal sex is the act of consensual vaginal penetration by one or more partners with a phallus (penis or penis shaped object such as a dildo or strap on). Penis-in-vagina is the most widely taught form and definition of sex. Despite it's popularity there are still many misconceptions and misunderstandings about vaginal sex. The following sections include general information, some of the most frequently asked questions about vaginal sex as well as some myths versus the facts. The links to this information and further information can be found in the links below.
If there is an emergency please contact your medical professional!
If there is an emergency please contact your medical professional!
General information
- During vaginal sex the penis (or fingers/toy) is insertes into the vagina.
- Consent is a must, there is no enthusiastic conset then it's not sex, its assault or rape
- foreplay isnt just a curtosy, it helps prepare and relax the vagina and stimulate the production of natural lubricant
- Taking your time is important, being prepared and aroused allowes both partners to enjoy intecorse more fully
FAQs
Will it hurt?
While Vaginal intercourse may cause some pain and discomfort at first it is not normal to have prolonged or severe pain. if you are in pain, stop, take a moment, communicate with your partner ans asses the situation. It may mean you are trying too much too fast or it may simply mean you aren't relaxed and physically ready enough. you know your body best, listen to it and act accordingly. Sex is about pleasure, keep that in mind.
Will I bleed?
While it is common to bleed during your first time it is just as common not to bleed. a small spot here or there the first time or two is nothing to worry about, it happens. if you have large amounts of vaginal bleeding and pain outside of menstruation you should seek medical attention.
What is the best position?
There is no overall best. you decide what is comfortable and pleasurable to you and your partner(s). there is no right or wrong answer here. just remember to keep it safe, sane and consensual.
Do I need lube?
While it may not be necessary for everybody lube help ease the way during vaginal sex. this is another matter that is up to you and your partner(s), but when in doubt a little lube isn't a bad thing to have on hand.
When should they put on a condom?
For standard penis condoms it is best, and easiest, to put a condom on before penetration but after an erection has been achieved. for a standard vaginal condom it is best to insert when you are aroused and relaxed, again this should be done before penetration.
While Vaginal intercourse may cause some pain and discomfort at first it is not normal to have prolonged or severe pain. if you are in pain, stop, take a moment, communicate with your partner ans asses the situation. It may mean you are trying too much too fast or it may simply mean you aren't relaxed and physically ready enough. you know your body best, listen to it and act accordingly. Sex is about pleasure, keep that in mind.
Will I bleed?
While it is common to bleed during your first time it is just as common not to bleed. a small spot here or there the first time or two is nothing to worry about, it happens. if you have large amounts of vaginal bleeding and pain outside of menstruation you should seek medical attention.
What is the best position?
There is no overall best. you decide what is comfortable and pleasurable to you and your partner(s). there is no right or wrong answer here. just remember to keep it safe, sane and consensual.
Do I need lube?
While it may not be necessary for everybody lube help ease the way during vaginal sex. this is another matter that is up to you and your partner(s), but when in doubt a little lube isn't a bad thing to have on hand.
When should they put on a condom?
For standard penis condoms it is best, and easiest, to put a condom on before penetration but after an erection has been achieved. for a standard vaginal condom it is best to insert when you are aroused and relaxed, again this should be done before penetration.
Myths Vaginal orgasms happen for all female bodied persons.
Sex "loosens" the vagina. Porn is realistic. Virginity* can be proven via the hymen Sex is only valid if all parties orgasm |
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FactsFalse! Only about 30% of female bodied individuals orgasm from vaginal stimulation only. Many require clitoral stimulation separate from penetration. Not true! The vagina is rather elastic and will continually return to its original size no matter how stretched. It will also relax when you are properly aroused in order to accommodate penetration without pain or injury. Not even a little bit! Porn often depicts painful or harmful intercourse because the focus is showmanship over pleasure. Nope! The hymen may not break at all during sex. You could also not have one, or it many be small or big, it's different for everyone. *Virginity is a societal and social construct that does not dictate your worth or worthiness! Nah. Sex is about intimacy with your partner(s), both physical and emotional. Not everyone has to orgasm to enjoy the experience and call it sex. |
Sources and Resources
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/sex/all-about-sex
https://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/vaginal-sex
https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/sex/tips-for-vaginal-intercourse/
https://www.womensconference.org/top-female-sex-myths-and-facts-you-need-to-know/
http://www.iwannaknow.org/teens/myths_facts.html
https://www.centreforsexuality.ca/sexual-health-info/sex-myths/
https://www.hhs.gov/ash/oah/sites/default/files/ash/oah/oah-initiatives/paf/508-assets/paftraining_myths.pdf
https://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/Female-condom-use.html
https://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/vaginal-sex
https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/sex/tips-for-vaginal-intercourse/
https://www.womensconference.org/top-female-sex-myths-and-facts-you-need-to-know/
http://www.iwannaknow.org/teens/myths_facts.html
https://www.centreforsexuality.ca/sexual-health-info/sex-myths/
https://www.hhs.gov/ash/oah/sites/default/files/ash/oah/oah-initiatives/paf/508-assets/paftraining_myths.pdf
https://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/Female-condom-use.html